Saturday, December 5, 2009


A few years ago I had a very interesting conversation with someone about control freaks. Those of us who endeavour to have everything running to an exact rhythm and everything in its right place. I think it is linked with insecurity and even obsessional behaviour. This discussion has stayed with me for a long time and has caused me to chuckle at times when things go wrong in my life or don't pan out just the way I want them to. My friend made a spectacularly simple yet incredibly logical point. Life is not meant to remain static or stand still, it really is like a river and its just when we think we have it all under control that it changes and sends you scrambling to get a grip again. We all work hard to gain security in our lives but yet it seems it makes us stiff and unyielding to fate. We refuse to go with the flow and accept the changes.

I have tried to loosen my own grip, I have tried to not look too far ahead and advance plan or speculate. Something has changed in my world over the last few months; someone close to me has become weaker and weaker and is now basically bed bound. The medical care claim that 'it's a slippery slope'. Now the rhythm in my routine has changed again and I must change with it and go with the flow. Maybe life itself is a strange wriggling organism and we are riding this bucking bronco bareback.


  1. I'm sorry about your friend's weak condition. Hope he gets better soon. Things like this make us reflect on life and on what we do with it.

    I agree with the view that life is in constant flow like a river, and that this makes it hard for us to control it.
    Perhaps we should just go along with the flow.
    Your post gives much food to thought.

  2. Found your blog from DUTA,popped over to have a read and you have some interesting food for thought.
    What you have said about life makes sense,you do have to go with the flow ,even if it does'nt always take you in the direction you intended,you will get there in the end.Staying happy and positive helps.

  3. It is said that you can't step into the same river twice -- your footing is continually being washed away.And that current can pull you under if you don't pay attention. Nonetheless, it is this flow which also brings the many wonderful things to life.

    Thinking good thoughts for your friend.

  4. Thanks as always Duta. I have slowly learnt that going with the flow is really the only way to go.

    Matron, you are very welcome and thanks for dropping by. I am fighting to stay happy and positive because otherwise it envelopes a persons spirit. What an unpredictable animal life is!

  5. Thank you T. It is really interesting the different perspectives on this subject, on this idea of life flowing almost out of control and changing at will. But thats just it, it can threaten your footing but also bring new and brilliant things. It is a real eye-opener for me.

  6. It is hard watching someone you care about start their preparation for not being here anymore. And you are right about the way life is like a river: the ebbs and flows of life make living here quite a difficult journey sometimes. I am sure you will be able to pull out of yourself all that you need to give to your friend. Sendings blessings to help you. x

  7. Vera - Thank you for such heart felt words and encouragement.

  8. Better the ebbs and flows of the river, Christopher than the stagnation of the pond.